If a family member loses a pet, how can we support them?

We make a pet mementos goods by knitting. So sometimes I get inquiries from clients about their pets passing away.

Today I introduce one case.

It’s especially common for mothers to experience deep grief after losing a pet.

Older women often grieve the death of a pet

Sometimes a family member may grieve the death of a pet especially deeply.

If your mother is deeply grieving a pet, it can be very distressing for the whole family.

Veterinarians often say that elderly people—especially women—are more vulnerable to grieving deeply after a pet’s death.

This may be due to menopause and lifestyle changes.

It’s hard for the whole family, but let’s understand that the mother herself is the hardest.

can’t do housework

In Japan, mothers often do housework.

If my mother is unable to do housework, someone else will do it.

if it is the short term, it may be less of a burden.

However, it may take several days, or even months, to get over the loss of a pet.

advice

If symptoms persist, consider whether other life changes—like retirement, an empty nest, or menopause—might also be contributing.

Besides the loss of your pet, have there been any changes in your home environment?

Work stress, child independence, death of family members, etc.

It seems that there are cases where the death of a pet overlaps with them and becomes mentally unstable.

If you are a woman (even a man), it seems that menopause disorder may overlap.

Why don’t you consult a doctor?

I think it’s important to be close to your mother’s heart.

Mother herself must want to get well.

Talk with your mother about her pet. Celebrate the pet’s birthday with a cake, and mark the anniversary with flowers.

Also, please talk about pet

You might say, ‘I’m sure [pet’s name] is happy and healthy over the Rainbow Bridge.’

If you can share mother’s loneliness, she may be think it will be healed.

I introduce an example of a mother who lost her pet and became healthy with the support of her family

An example of how memorial goods saved a family’s pet loss

customer

The other day, my beloved dog died suddenly.

My mother was always with her dog when she slept, when she ate, and when she went for walks.

Mother said.
“I don’t know what to do tomorrow.”

I wanted to support my mother.

my mother said
“I can’t hold you anymore”
So I ordered a cushion for my mom to cuddle with.
At first, I thought it might make my mother feel more sad.
But my mother said when she saw the finished cushion.
“I’m so happy I could cry”
My mother was very happy.
I gave it as a gift and it was really nice.
Thank you very much for making such a wonderful cushion. thank you very much!

order : knitted cushion

parents living alone

Elderly people who live alone may also have pets.

Sometimes pets die, sometimes owners die.

Don’t put off the problem, let’s consult and decide while the pet and the owner are healthy.

When a parent loses a pet, please try to contact them or give them a gift.
Then parents will know they are not alone.

Pet memento goods ( we art making) are used in such situations.

It will be useful even if it is not related to pets.
It would be a good idea to give your parents something they like, such as sweets or seasonal fruits.

Some customers even bring their mothers over from their parents’ homes to live with them in their new homes.

It is important to tell your mother that you are not alone and that you have a family even if you are far away.

customer

I ordered a cushion from Toy Poodle.

The dog loved my mother.
Mother used to live with a dog at my parents’ house, but dog passed away the other day.

He lived 18 years longer.
I couldn’t believe it was gone for a long time, but when I saw the knitted cushion, I felt like my dog was there, and I was happy.

My mother is very happy too.
“Really like it, great!”
Mother was happy to say.

order : knitted cushion

advice

In the countryside where I live, there are many elderly people who is living alone.

Children often live in cities.
In some cases, elderly people move into the homes of children living in the city.

For elderly people who have lost their pets and are left alone, it might be a good idea to start a new life in a town with family.

father lost a pet

Of course, men can also grieve the death of a pet deeply.

Some men try to be strong and hold back their feelings.
Isn’t there some people who can’t even cry in public?

But in reality, your dad may be hiding the fact that he is sad about losing his pet.

Reference article: Differences in family feelings about the death of a cat

advice

Memorial goods may bring a good opportunity at this time.

A chance to improve a strained family relationship

Things to be aware of when a family member loses a pet

When a family pet dies, there are some things to be aware of.

Someone in the family may suffer greatly from the death of a pet.
It would be nice if the family could support each other, but if it goes on for too long, they may get irritated or fight over trivial matters.

the hardest person

First of all, let’s understand that the person who is suffering from pet loss is the most painful.
The person must want to do something about it.
Sometimes that impatience makes the situation worse.

it’s hard for you too

At the same time, your family’s pet has passed away, so it’s the same for other family members, including yourself. It is also important that family members around you do not overdo it.