Hello, my name is MiAsa, and I create memorial knit items to honor beloved pets.
I use yarn to lovingly recreate memories of pets through custom-made cushions and blankets. Each stitch holds emotion and remembrance.
As I work on these pieces and talk with people who are grieving their pets, I often hear the same question:
“I can’t stop crying every night. Is there anything I can do to feel better?”
In this blog post, I want to speak directly to those who are overwhelmed by grief and can’t stop the tears.
Crying Every Day and Night After Losing a Pet
Many of my customers are deeply heartbroken after losing their pet.
They cry every single day—and every night.
They often ask me:
“It’s so painful. I cry constantly. Is there a way to stop crying? How can I feel better?”
My answer is: It’s okay to cry.
In fact, I encourage you to cry as much as you need.
Crying is not something to be ashamed of.
Let your tears flow—for your pet, and for yourself.
It’s a natural part of the healing process.
“If You Cry Too Much, Your Pet Will Be Sad in Heaven” — Is That True?
Maybe someone told you, “If you keep crying, your pet will be sad in heaven.”
But I don’t believe that.
When I lost my beloved cat Maro, I cried a lot.
Over and over again.
Even now, when a customer shares their story, I sometimes feel the tears welling up again.
But I believe Maro never felt burdened by my grief.
Instead, I feel he’s still beside me, gently comforting me through it.
Maybe… No—definitely.
What to Do When the Tears Just Won’t Stop
Still, I understand how painful it is when you can’t stop crying.
Many people ask me, “What should I do when the sadness becomes too much?”
I’ve thought about this a lot, because I hear it so often.
And while I can’t give one single answer that works for everyone, I’ve seen something important:
When people talk to someone about their grief, they often feel a little lighter.
Something shifts.
They begin to find their own way to peace.
Listening Might Be Just As Important As Knitting
My job is to knit pet-shaped cushions and blankets, but recently, I’ve come to believe that listening to people’s stories is just as important.
I’m not a therapist or grief counselor.
But if you’re someone who can’t stop crying after losing a pet, I hope this blog brings you even a small bit of comfort.
Maybe you’ll find a hint or idea that helps you take a step toward healing.
You don’t have to hold back the tears.
Let them fall.
You loved deeply, and your grief is a reflection of that love.
Why It’s Okay to Cry After Losing a Pet
One of my customers once told me:
“When you said, ‘It’s okay to cry,’ I finally felt relief. No one had ever said that to me before.”
That moment stayed with me.
Crying Is a Sign of Honest Emotion
In my experience, people who cry easily are often very honest with their emotions.
They loved their pet deeply and now feel lost without them.
Trying to suppress that sadness can make it build up inside, slowly becoming even heavier.
Especially when you’re doing your best to stay strong during the day—at work, or around others—it’s no surprise if you find yourself crying when you’re finally alone, like at home or just before bed.
Those tears are a release, a way of letting go of the stress and emotional pressure you’ve been carrying.
Crying Is Not a Weakness
Please don’t think crying is something to be ashamed of.
It’s not a sign of weakness. It’s a sign that you cared, and that your heart is still healing.
Of course, crying also takes energy.
And maybe you’re at the point where you’re thinking, “I want to feel strong again—even if I still feel lonely.”
That thought means you’re already starting to move forward.
When You’re Ready to Move Forward—But Gently
If you’re beginning to think about taking small steps toward healing, that’s wonderful.
But please—don’t push yourself too hard.
Wanting to feel better is a good thing, but grieving doesn’t have a deadline.
Take your time, and be kind to yourself.
Sometimes, a memorial item—like a pet-themed cushion or blanket—can help support those emotions and bring a quiet kind of comfort.
I invite you to read some of the messages from our customers.
You might find a helpful idea or a little encouragement there—something to remind you that you’re not alone.
Even now, the tears won’t stop, but I can do my best because I have this child (cushion). The words “Loneliness is proof of love” that Miasa-san taught me really saved my heart. People around me tell me that if I cry, I won’t be able to go to heaven, and it was painful, as if they were telling me to forget about that child. The cushion was of course wonderful, but I am grateful to have met Miasa-san.
custom made knitted cushion
Finding Comfort in Something You Can Hold On To
I’d like to share some heartfelt messages from customers after they received their memorial cushions:
“It feels like I can see my pet again.”
“It’s as if they’re right here with me.”
“This gives me the strength to face tomorrow.”
Having something tangible to hold on to—something that brings comfort—can help calm your heart and ease your grief.
That “something” can be an item, like a cushion, or even just kind words from someone who understands.
Our cushions may not just be products—they might be emotional support in physical form.
But in the end, I believe what truly helps you heal is your own inner strength—your desire to move forward.
Sometimes, the cushion is simply the spark that helps you take that first step.
Finding Closure After Saying Goodbye to Your Pet
Some people haven’t had the chance to properly say goodbye to their beloved pet.
When that farewell is left undone, the pain can linger for a long time.
For the sake of your pet—and for your own healing—I encourage you to take the time to say a proper goodbye.
Once you’ve truly said farewell, I believe your bond with your pet will remain forever, in a spiritual and unbreakable way.
I personally believe that when a pet’s soul leaves their physical body, it travels peacefully to heaven and finds happiness there.
Although it’s heartbreaking, we can choose to send them off with love, wishing them joy in their new journey.
Holding a funeral, arranging for cremation, or setting up a small altar—these are not just rituals.
They are meaningful steps that help us accept the loss and begin to heal.
Each of these actions helps guide us through the process of letting go, while keeping the bond alive in our hearts.
Create a crying place (a place where pets can come home)
From now on, I think that pets and us are connected with our hearts.
It’s also a good idea to create a place in your home where your pet can come home.
Decide that it’s a place where you can cry , and go there when you want to cry.
Then you will feel like you are meeting your pet in heaven, and you may feel more at ease.
Customers sometimes tell us this.
Please see the change in feelings brought about by pet memorial goods .
Some people order not only cushions, but also two or three.
A set of cotton blanket and cushion.
Click here for details of the blanket
The hardest part is not being able to cry
The reason you are crying is because you are very sad and lonely.
I have also lost a dog and a cat.
Partly because of my age when my lacrimal glands weakened, I was shedding tears.
However, some customers say that they cried for the first time when the cushion arrived.
Until then, he couldn’t accept death and was just stunned.
The feeling that they’ve been holding back until now will be overflowing at once.
And from the next day onwards, we also received feedback that they felt positive.
See also this article.
When parting with a pet is hard, create a place where you can cry and cry properly
If you still cry for days
Someone cry for days on end and sometimes worry about what is going to happen to them.
They may think that people around them (family, etc.) are also annoyed.
At times like that, why don’t you pamper your family?
And forgive yourself for crying.
You had a hard time.
It’s okay to be sad and cry.
Forgive yourself for crying, and think that it is okay to cry tomorrow and the day after tomorrow.
That sadness will turn into happiness someday.
It is proof that you loved your pet from the bottom of your heart, and the more sad you are, the more deeply you love it.
This is a story told to us by a customer.
The sadness and pain are the proof that you loved pet.
Please check this out for details.
Loneliness is the proof that I loved you. Experience of overcoming pet loss